While grand romantic gestures can be memorable, research suggests that small, consistent acts of love are what truly sustain long-term relationships. A study from the Gottman Institute found that couples who practice ‘bids for connection’—small gestures like a smile, a kind word, or a touch—are more likely to stay happily together.
Simple ways to strengthen your relationship daily:
- Express gratitude: Acknowledge little things your partner does (e.g., “Thanks for making coffee!”)
- Use positive touch: Holding hands, a light shoulder rub, or a hug boosts oxytocin levels.
- Check in daily: Ask, “How was your day?” Genuinely listen.
- Do small favors: Surprise your partner by taking care of a task they dislike.
- Laugh together: Humor strengthens emotional bonds and eases stress.
Love isn’t built in grand, cinematic moments – it’s woven into the quiet, everyday acts of care and connection. In the end, it’s not the big gestures that sustain a relationship, but the small, consistent reminders that you matter to each other.