Talking to parents isn’t always easy. Maybe they don’t get your point of view, or every conversation turns into a lecture. But communication doesn’t have to feel like a battle. The key is knowing how to approach conversations in a way that helps them listen.
Why Parents Don’t Always Seem to Listen
It might feel like they don’t trust you or don’t take you seriously, but most parents are just trying to help—even if it doesn’t seem that way. Sometimes they worry, get distracted, or misunderstand what you’re trying to say.
Tips to Get Your Parents to Really Hear You:
- Pick the right time: If they’re stressed or busy, they may not focus on what you’re saying.
- Start with ‘I’ statements: Instead of “You never listen,” try “I feel frustrated when I don’t feel heard.”
- Be direct and clear: Avoid sarcasm or vague hints—say what you need in a calm way.
- Listen, too: Even if you don’t agree, showing you’re listening makes them more likely to do the same.
- Stay calm: If emotions run high, take a break and come back to the conversation later.
When to Get Outside Help
If no matter what you do, your parents don’t seem to listen or the relationship feels too tense, talking to a school counselor, teacher, or therapist can help. Having someone else guide the conversation can make communication easier.
Good communication takes practice, but small changes can make a big difference. When you feel heard, and they feel respected, conversations get easier.
Just remember- no matter how frustrating things get, your parents love you. Good communication takes effort, and every conversation is a chance to understand each other better -and to show that you care, too.
